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_A little confusing flood of what my fingers brought up on the last past
year and a little more._

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**_CONTENT WARNINGs: NSFW, genitalia, surgery descriptions_**

I don't have any well-laid plan how to type this post, but lets see what
comes out of my fingers. By the way, orchiectomy is surgical removal of
testicles, even if it's fun to talk about it without explaining it and have
people searxing what it is...

I don't usually discuss my genitalia, but I feel like I have to make an
exception for this post as the majority of trans people only talk about
the full genital surgery ("gender-reassignment surgery", but I tend to take
the Finnish word and translate it into English, many people don't know
that orchiectomy is an option.

_Dear reader, for this part of this post I am assuming that you are trans
as I am typing this for you in hope that it will help you, not for anyone
reading this only, because they are curious on what I have between my
legs or what trans people have between their legs._

First question would probably be how did I end up to orchiectomy instead of
the full genital surgery.

If you have been reading this blog, you know that I was having very bad
time mentally suffering from depression, AvPD (it was confirmed and I
healed, but that later in this post), anxiety and everything. Thus everyone
thought that I wouldn't have mental resources for the full genital surgery.

If I recall correctly, I was complaining about this at [Transtukipiste](https://transtukipiste.fi/in-english/)
(Trans support point, runs peer support groups and supports trans people
otherwise) coffee evening and somehow I ended up wondering if I should
try getting orchiectomy and someone encouraged me to ask. Could this have
even been the last day of 2015...

Knowing that orchiectomy doesn't prevent having full genital surgery later
(confirm from your doctor though, I only know this is the case in Finland
as long as you repeat to your doctor that you want to keep the option
open), I asked about the doctor who asked my therapist and (as this post is
not about the process) skipping things a little, I finally got permission
for it.

At some point before the surgery I started sleeping naked and started becoming very
comfortable with my body and I started feeling that I might be happy with
just orchiectomy, but I decided that I would think about it after the
surgery if I started feeling like it.

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**_Same content warnings, except that only now is actually the surgery._**

On evening of October 17th I took the last Androcur. It's the
male-hormone blocker that all trans people are prescribed in Finland by
default and the medicine that appears to make almost everyone depressed
and I was using half-dosage as it's strong and if you have read my old
posts, you have some kind of image on how much I suffered it.

On the next morning I was at Peijas hospital and had the orchiectomy. I
remember being there long time before the appointment and getting a little
lost inside the hospital, but when I found there, everything happened
easily and I spend there only a few hours. And there was no depression
anymore.

The recovery period should have been two weeks, but the wound opened so
it took a little longer, but that isn't what this post is about either.

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What this post is about is how I feel.

I have finished the trans process. I have a penis and empty testicle sack
that has decided to rise up so I don't even see it in the mirror.

I don't feel dysphoria or have any issues looking at my own body, no
discomfort or anything, I am me. I transitioned for me, not other
people and if my genitalia is something people don't expect, that isn't
my problem.

I can use dirtier toilets easily as I don't have to sit down, it doesn't
necessary even have to be a toilet and in case there is a long queue, I
can also use urinal if I need to.

Public saunas and changing areas etc.? I am a woman regardless of what
people may think about my body parts which aren't their business. I haven't
yet visited any of those, but as I said whatever people think isn't my
problem. I actually even have a temptation to visit such areas, just
because my body is "sinful" and everything, according to whatever you wish
to call cis beauty standards. <!-- This is possibly a little kinky. -->

How do I know that I don't need the full genital surgery? I haven't even
thought about it recently and I have no feelings of wrongness or thoughts
or anything pointing that I would need it. I even sometimes forget that
I am not cis or that my body isn't "normal". _Normal doesn't exist by
the way._

Trans people are also often worried about erections, based on my
experience and what I have heard, I think it depends entirely on your
relationship with your body. I have them sometimes as I am a human
and asexuality doesn't close them out.

I feel indifferent about them, but that might be connected to me
being asexual or also being sex-repulsed which to me means that
I feel repulsed seeing erections or bodily fluids.

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_Should I content warning about Esperanto?_

After the surgery I have heard that people often have crisis on what to do
after transition. I solved that by becoming insane :D

I read about Esperanto, which is the most spoken artificial language in
the world and then I just had to learn it. I did Duolingo and associated
Memrise course for three months ... <em lang="eo">kaj mi parolas
Esperanton!</em>

Thanks to online-friend I also happened to read about Buddhism and it made
a lot more sense than Christianity that was forced on me ever did. It's
more on experiencing things than believing blindly and even Buddha said
_don't believe me, experience it by yourself_ and I started trying to
use their methods (you may have heard _Mindfulness_) or maybe it would be
more accurate to say that I started practicing it.

If individuality is an illusion, how could I be worse than everyone else?
If past and future aren't here _now_ and I am finally "given" the
permission to let go of them, why should I be stuck in the past? And the
future won't be like I think so why be stuck in imaginary future on my
worseness?

The books I read are _How To Be An Adult in Relationships_ by
_David Richo_ (thanks to [attachment styles - a primer at the dirty normal](https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2010/06/21/attachment-styles-a-primer/)
which recommends a different book with similar name, so happy accident
happened), _The Way Things Are_ by _Lama Ole Nydahl_ and _Living Dharma_ by
_Lama Yeshe Losaf_. I am also reading more books about the subject, those
were about Diamond Way Buddhism and now I am reading about Zen
(_Everyday Zen_ by _Charlotte Joko Beck_ (this seems to be for Zen what
_Living Dharma_ is for Diamond Way.)

_No one is perfect, including you, everyone makes mistake._

_Everyone is as capable to hurting you as making you good._

So I have learned Esperanto and according to my mother <em lang="eo">mi diras Esperanto
duono de tempo</em> and came to religion, can I be more crazy?

Esperanto gave me self-esteem with my capability of learning languages so
I started learning

- Swedish, which I regret not learning at junior high school, but I had
  dysphoria, bullying, suicidality, depression and everything and I think
  I hear it in Helsinki daily and it's also official language in Finland.
- Spanish as <em lang="eo">mi amas Esperanton</em>, it looks so much like Esperanto so
  I feel I almost understand everything written in it and it's the second
  most spoken language in the world, so I have to learn it.
- Lojban thanks to the friend mentioned earlier.

<em lang="eo">Do mi nun parolas la finnan, la anglan, Esperanton kaj mi lernas hispanan,
la svennan kaj la lojbanon.</em> Entirely sane.

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And life otherwise, I haven't gotten to continue studying yet, which I
think was mentioned as a goal in the other posts, but I just wasn't able
to. I have applied to four places and I think I failed one entrance
examination, but that is three left.

I was also local election candidate for Helsinki Pirates (part of Pirate
Party Finland) and I got surprisingly many votes (20 IIRC) and collective
votes helped us get one candidate through to the Helsinki municipal
council and we also got some other seats and backup seats.

I think I have finished typing this blog post now. However I was supposed
to start this with an apology about some of my old blog posts (which I am not censoring as I don't feel like that would be the right thing either),
so I apologise about them now. I don't know if the text says it, but I
feel like I have improved as a person a lot in addition to getting over
mental health issues and finishing the trans process.