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More on my life and a little background on bots; also trigger warning about probably everything…
Start with the previous post on the subject…
Update: I graduated on 2015-05-29.
So I have been away from school for months now and the fact that I won’t graduate seems very sure. I haven’t left home unless I have had too either and after today I might leave home even then.
I don’t remember last week so well, so probably nothing happened, I was away from home for two events at Helsinki which is tiring as the bus trip from Kotka-Helsinki is two hours, rest of the week I was at home with the exception of visiting cottage and replacing elorn (Banana Pi which didn’t like upgrade from Bananian Wheezy to Bananian Jessie) with rbtpzn (a little better system, Raspberry Pi B+ running Arch Linux ARM), I don’t remember what else happened.
I have also been anxious too much for being healthy and I have talked about suicide probably daily. Last night Doctor Google also suggested Avoidant personality disorder and I am waiting for seeing “mental health professional” again and asking if that is possible.
And back to today, I had possibly my worst bus trip between Kotka and
Helsinki. First there was bully from previous school and even if they
didn’t do anything, just seeing is enough to trigger heavy anxiety to
me.
Then there were two people sitting in front of me at the bus,
small child and one adult. The child kept making loud noice for most of
the trip and at some point dropped whatever the thing is on bus seats
behind your head to me and only stared.
I was too anxious even
without them, so I didn’t tell the adult anything and there wouldn’t
have been any use in that as they didn’t care about their behaviour
anyway and it would have been my fault anyway for sitting there or
annoying them just for existing.
Then the bots and this is possibly the most triggering thing I am going to write.
I got affiliated with Supybot around 2011, first trying the stock Supybot, later Supybot git version, then gribble and finally Supybot-fr.
On 2011-02-14 @ProgVal asked me to translate it into Finnish and a little later it became Limnoria. There were also Italian and Hungarian translations at that time.
Then there was nothing special for longer time other than IRC support and whatever you can find from the git history with the exception of offtopic chat which was tolerated at #Limnoria at the time it was founded.
I was depressed and suicidal (& dysphoric even if I didn’t know the word at that time) and was often talked out of it there and long time later I learned who I was and came out as trans around 2013-10-22 (nick Mikaela registered at freenode) and later started HRT by myself on 2013-12-30 and this is where what I am typing about begins…
After starting HRT, I started having other feelings than dysphoria, anxiety, depression, suicidality etc. including romantic ones, on sexual orientation side I just “switched” from aromantic to (demi)romantic asexual.
The dates are more unclear for this point of time, but I fell in love to @ProgVal and just kept it to myself for a long time. On 2014-03-20, I asked them if they knew any ace channels I could wonder my feelings on and the answer was negative and after further talking, we ended up founding ##abgilpqt+ - a channel for everyone (which has had it’s own share of drama, that I won’t discuss here).
At some point after that on one night we were talking again and I don’t remember what we were exactly talking about (and reading logs would hurt far too much as you will learn later), and there was something I wasn’t willing to say as I thought that they would hate me after it (they will hate me after this post, but I must open somewhere) and I said that I loved them. They apologized for not loving me (who would ever love me anyway), but within week on one night while I was sleeping I had gotten messages that they said that they loved me and were stupid for not realizing it.
We were in long distance relationship for about year, dreaming about meeting each other in real life, taling about everything every day, but then I learned that they were in open relationship without telling me and the other relationship was formed after our one.
I asked them about it and only got response that they didn’t tell me about it so I wouldn’t cry, which I did and next day I was unable to rise from bed and my fmily thought I had gotten influenza which my father had around that time, but I was better on the next day.
That is not the definition of poly or open relationship, that is cheating or betraying your partner. I am anxious while writing this and I am still damaged by what they did and I don’t know if I will ever fully heal from that.
Some people might have heard that I have wondered if I was poly, it was because I didn’t want to lose them, but the feelings were already lost, I was too broken and I am not poly and I won’t ever be in relationship with poly person again and I will also avoid long distance relationships. I won’t ever do that to another person and I won’t let it happen to me again.
If I was in poly relationship, the other party would just use it as excuse to be as far from me as possible as anyone else is more beautiful or intelligent or allosexual or anything.