diff --git a/_posts/2015-05-10-umode+g2.md b/_posts/2015-05-10-umode+g2.md new file mode 100644 index 0000000..8db0837 --- /dev/null +++ b/_posts/2015-05-10-umode+g2.md @@ -0,0 +1,114 @@ +--- +layout: post +comments: true +title: "umode +g part 2: Why I don't acknowledge your existense" +category: [english] +tags: [english, IRC, outing, trans, ace] +--- + +*You might want to read this even if you don't have any idea what IRC is. +Why I am not reacting to your attempts to PM me if I don't know you? +Simple, all results are bad.* + +[See also umode +g part 1]({% post_url 2015-04-02-umode+g %}) + +I had otherwise nice day yesterday, but then I returned home (living at +Kotka while being me is worse than death) and there were not-so-nice +things at IRC. + +* ChatSpike IRC network had somehow broken itself and they have SSL ports + listening plain text, but I am not affiliated with them and it has + nothing to do with this, but I seem to be mentioning it anyway. +* Transphobic person had sent trans person after me for being in same + country and possibly being able to help (and interacting with them was + a mistake) which is why I won't acknowledge your PM attempts unless I + know you. I won't define "knowing", you can use your head for that. + +So I receive two PM attempts from someone I don't know and it gives me +three choices: + +* ignore it like it didn't happen +* `/accept` which can lead me getting [harassed] which doesn't interest + freenode staffers. +* `/whois ` and ask on common channel if any (this time + \#freenode). + +The third option seemed like the best possible, but was a disaster. First +I ask if there was some reason they wanted to PM me and: + +> Oh, I got to know your nickname on another network from some person who + saw I was a transgender-person Mikaela . + +Today it seems that I misunderstood the line badly +(that they knew me on other network) while being tired, but +why else mention "transgender" to me as PM attempt reason if I wasn't +trans. + +Then many people start complaining to me about making private conversation +public ignoring that freenode staffers are infamour for their reaction to +any kind of harassment on their network so it's my fault for staying safe. + +***As should be common sense, don't talk about anyone else beloging to +gender or sexual minority, depending on which of them, they will get +interacted with differently ("trying to cheat other people that they are +another gender than they are"), violence, harassment, bullying or worse.*** + +At this point there was finally a little PMing to return to \#freenode +with even worse way longer time laterwhile I was preparing for bed and +I wasn't following IRC (which possibly was good thing in this case.) + +*Everything below is from \#freenode* + +> I got your contact details from \ in irc.pomf.se and that + person wanted to send greetings or something. + +*Please consider this blog post as return-greetings...* + +> I didn't know you were that young. + +> Something bad happened in Kotka in my life while other bad things were + happening in there so I made a connection that you might be some kind of + a key to fix some feelings left by that. + +*I think I have talked about living at Kotka being worse than death at many +places, but no idea where you made that assumption.* + +> And, if you like, you could go to the Mensa IQ-test in Helsinki when + you have the time. Guide on how to go there can be found at + http://www.mensa.fi/ + +*this has what to do with anything? bullying because of autism? by the way, +other people are again complaining about the discussion which is natural +as there is no reason for it to belong to \#freenode.* + +> And Mikaela, if you come out of being asexual, you could come to Rizon + to chat. #transbians is a good channel. + +*I take this as acephobia, the chances of me becoming something else than +ace is probably same as sexual orientation of any other person changing... +Here I am also outed as ace and I already talked about that before with +great emphasis.* + +*One thing that happens to ace people when outed is often said to be +"corrective rape", as raping asexual person will surely make them straight +even if it won't work with other sexual minorities. Or does it cause mental +health issues and more fear towards sexuality? (note that ace people can +still have sex if they choose so and not everyone is repulsed by sex. +remember consent).* + +* * * * * + +Now you should know... + +* that you mustn't talk about someone else being gender or sexual minority + even if they are publicly out, let them tell by themselves if they choose + to do so. Other people have no need for that information, they only need + knowledge on your preferred pronouns (or they can use singular they or + other gender neutral pronoun)… +* that I am not going to talk to you in PM unless I know you and you should + use common sense for defining "knowing" and one real life example of what + can happen if I do talk to you. +* that I have more issues with trying to help other people now. I have nice + issues with it for example freenode's "feminist" channels (with the + quotes) and getting bullied for performing repair install to their PC + when it was failing to boot Windows and they were lost on what to do. diff --git a/pages/irc.markdown b/pages/irc.markdown index 56a3e34..8cd4d8d 100644 --- a/pages/irc.markdown +++ b/pages/irc.markdown @@ -32,6 +32,7 @@ could be a little more clear... * [Using umode -iI]({% post_url 2015-03-26-umode--i %}) * [Keep the ops opped]({% post_url 2015-04-01-keep-the-ops-opped %}) * [Using umode +g/blocking unauthorized PMs]({% post_url 2015-04-02-umode+g %}) + * [Part 2: I don't acknowledge your existense if you attempt to PM and I don't know you.]({% post_url 2015-05-10-umode+g2 %}) * [IRC over TLS is not pointless.]({% post_url 2015-04-22-IRC-over-TLS %}) * * * * *